The state of your pelvic floor and erection strength go hand in hand
Did you ever learn about the pelvic floor?
The pelvic floor is often not talked about for men and yet having this awareness is key.
Our pelvic floor often can be more tight or need strengthening depending on what is shown in symptoms
• A tighter pelvic floor can look like :
-lower back pain
-incontinence
-difficulty releasing p
-difficulty emptying
-constipation
• A pelvic floor needing strengthening can look like:
-inability or difficulty to hold p
-feeling sudden urges for the wash-room
-constipation
-difficulty holding erection / erectile dysfunction
-difficulty building sexual arousal and more
Check in to see which resonate with you if any
I will be beginning a deeper dive on my page talking more about men’s pelvic health and ways of support✨
-exercises to support stronger bl00d flow into your body and your cock
-support in better understanding your body and pelvic health
-pelvic floor exercises to both relax and strengthen the pelvic floor ( depending on your need)
-extras to support stronger erections and more
When you connect to her breasts, you also connect with her heart
The more present and intentional with love into this space, the more a woman’s body feels safe to begin to soften. Her heart continues to open.
Have you ever heard of a breast massage?
Have you ever given a breast massage?
This is a powerful practice to create further softening into the body while also creating arousal energy starting in the heart space.
When you are present with a woman’s breasts, she can feel it in her whole body and especially in, her heart.
Who is ready to learn more about breast massage?
Happy June 1st ✨🌼
As we enter a new month, let us reflect:
1. What is 1 word that you can hold in focus that describes what you desire for your month ahead?
2. How can I implement this intention / desire / word / focus as I carry forward into these coming days?
2. What do I want MORE of this month?
3. What do I desire less of and more of this month?
Have you ever done a monthly check in as this?
3 easy ways to give yourself some love today 😊
1. Slower, deeper exhales. This will support more relaxation, lessen tension, slowing of the mind as well as support keeping you grounded in your body.
2. Self Massage. Glide your hands along the back of your neck and head. Massage your chest open, Massage open your palms and hands. Give your shoulders some love. Throughout the day, stopping and doing self massages supports us on a full mind body soul level.
3. Get your bare feet in the grass! There is endless research on the benefits of connecting our barefeet / bodies with the Earth ( Grounding ) This supports stronger circulation, relaxation, anti-inflammatory, lowers the bl00d pressure and more. Spending even 10 minutes a day with your barefeet being connected to the ground can bring benefits!
Spontaneous Desire Vs Responsive Desire Pt 1 🤍
Have you heard of these before?
There are many layers to our sex drive.
Understanding our own sex drive helps us better navigate and communicate with our partner(s) about it all
✨Spontaneous desire happens when mental arousal leads into our physical desire.
We start to think about sex and our body follows in getting aroused or desiring sex.
It can be a moment, a feeling, a thought, a sight, whatever it is - Our body and selves can be turned on more spontaneously in that way.
✨ Responsive desire is when it takes responding to the physical to spark the drive / desire
We respond to something which then creates that mental arousal and physical desire for us.
Historically, men often experience spontaneous desire and women follow more responsive desire.
This creates conflict in how we are connecting into sex / intimacy or confusion as to “Why am I turned on and they aren’t?”
To know this helps us better understand how we can begin to connect with our partner in a way that honor their desire style as well as yours
Which do you relate with most often?
What moves you?
I love this question 💛
A few things that move me
-Seeing people in a candid smile or laugh
-Healing
-Music / Art
-Mother Nature’s abundance
To my men here ✨
How can women better support you as a man?
What does support look like and mean to you?
What do you wish women understood about being a man?
Whatever we are focusing on, we are feeding
Where our awareness is, our energy is flowing and interacting there too
Small check ins with the mind throughout the day.
These can allow us to reset where our focus and mind are flowing.
Are we feeding the inspiration or the fear within us?
Are we feeding seeing the strengths or seeing the impossibility?
✨After reflecting where our focus is in the day✨
-Notice if you are desiring a shift of focus. If so:
-Create a new intention for focus and speak out loud or write it for yourself
-Gift yourself grace for where your focus has been and honor that in speaking that out loud or internally to self ( shame does not support change )
-Notice what supports you in the focus of your desire vs elsewhere
( Hydration? Removing apps from your home screen or phone for focus? Removal of friendships / relationships that go against this focus? Etc )
-Spend some time taking slow deep breaths. On each inhale, feel this new energy entering your body. Feel the old, leaving on the exhale.
Where is our mind flowing today?
Remember - wherever it is : we always can re focus it and find a way to guide it back 🤍
What do you like to do on Sundays to prepare you for the week ahead?
Relaxation and re-charge wise?
Self care wise?
Productivity wise?
Organization wise?
What are those little pieces that support the structure for your week ahead?
Have you ever been given a cock massage?
I love giving my beloved cock massages.
Your cock is connected to your heart.
The more intentional time spent massaging and giving your cock love, the more it opens your heart
A cock massage is a beautiful way to experience this opening
The small choices make the big differences
Do you notice this for yourself?
When we are hydrated
When we have nourishing food in our bellies
When we take time for rest
When we take a few minutes outside
When we take time for movement
What are the little choices that you see add up for you?
Our mind follows our body.
We often make decisions and move from our mind vs our body and yet, our body is actually what creates the thoughts and path of the mind.
Did you know this?
The body and our regulation system internally is what actually steers the mind and our thinking.
✨When our body feels rested, supported, nourished, seen - it’s thoughts are more grounded, calm, seeing the positive, able to process heavier information without burnout
✨When our body feels tired, lacking nutrients, not fed, burnt out, scattered, overworked, hurting and more - our mind follows the pain our body is feeling. It gets stuck in the hurt thinking, it feels resentful much faster, it reacts vs processes, it sees the worst in the day, it may feel more anxious, etc
Check in with your thoughts and remember - they are not you but the reflection of your body and inside of you
We all need human touch and genuine connection
How often responsibility takes focus over living
Over connecting
Over feeling
How can we come back to these spaces of love?
Of present eyes with each other
Present lips connected with our bodies
We all need these spaces.
Spaces to breathe
Spaces to be held
Spaces to be seen
Spaces of pure love and connection
We were not created to be machines.
I have missed everyone here ✨
I am very happy to be back
I recently took a bit of time away from here as life became overwhelming and too busy with my father’s and family’s needs.
The weight of it all started to consume me.
I was reminded over and over during this time away - we were never meant to be machines. No matter the situation.
I also reflected deeper back into how I approach my work here.
I love creating.
It has my heart.
I love dropping into that present space where my body becomes one with the music or the feeling of the wind with my body.
I love capturing myself in these present moments.
This is why I continue to create.
It opens me.
It teaches me.
It ignites me.
Being in this line of work, we are approached with urgency in how much we post, share, etc
It makes it difficult to hold my value of a love for sharing what’s truly me and present in my body vs just created to create
I made a promise to myself to stay true to that as - I value sharing what’s true of me. Not just an image.
Also, we cannot show up from an empty cup.
Non stop creating leads to burnout and I love this work too much to work towards that.
Thank you for those who have stayed with me during this break 💛
Deep gratitude and happy to be back ✨
How has everyone been?
📸 Rafael.avcioglu
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So much love 💕🌿
Do you usually use the same strokes, motions, toys or ways to orgasm or ejaculate during your time in self pleasure?
Do you know what works so you stick to it?
✨ Our brain loves and needs variation ✨
Exploring new connections into felt pleasure is important for the mind, body and spirit as
- it allows new pleasure pathways to be lit up and form in the brain.
-it allows a new experience for the mind and body
-it creates new feelings and pleasure to be had in the body for us
-it allows us to form new knowing of what we may enjoy vs don’t and more
How have you used TASTE to explore pleasure?
How have you used SMELL to explore pleasure?
How have you used TOUCH to explore pleasure?
How have you used SOUND to explore pleasure?
How have you used SIGHT to explore pleasure?
I will be sharing new tips, exercises and ways to enhance and bring more pleasure into your self pleasure and partnered pleasure experiences ❤️
Our body works for us, every moment of everyday
Keeping us alive through endless of functions that we play no part in
Going about with our minds in whatever is planned or needed of us.
We run our bodies down without ever seeing them as a piece of who we are
Our body desires for us to be deeper connected into it as - that is why it speaks to us.
In pain, symptoms, illness, etc
The more we can tune into the body.
Befriend the body.
The more our body thanks us.
Small ways we can give back to our body today✨
-drink extra water
-take time for stretching throughout the day
-feed it love and nutrients
-speak loving words to it
-spending a few moments wrapped up in a self hug
-taking time throughout the day to stop and breathe slow deep belly breaths
-massaging it with our hands
-listening to it if it speaks to us in some way
-moving it /gently exercising it
How do you like to thank and give back to your body?
What does dominance mean and feel like to you?
How does it show itself in your body?
Your voice?
Your posture?
Your movements?
The color of it if you were to give it one?
Who is ready to learn more about the pussy and how to connect with it, communicate with it and bring pleasure to it? 💗
( Anatomy diagram is from the book - Urban Tantra )
✨HEART + PUSSY CONNECTION EXERCISE✨
This is a powerful and simple exercise to connect deeper with your partner.
During intimacy, bring your hand over her heart
Greet her eyes and begin to breathe slower and deeper as you look at her
As you continue to breathe, bringing your other hand to fall gently over her pussy - holding it gently with love and care in your hand
✨Holding over the heart in one hand
Over the pussy in the other ✨
Sit here and just - breathe.
Feel what it’s like for both of you to just rest deeper into this space where these spaces are held and you two just breathe slowly together
Syncing breathing together can be really powerful in this exercise / space
5 WAYS TO AID DELAYING EJACULATION ✨
Have you tried any of these?
1. Pull your scrotal sac away from your body.
2. Lie on your back - gravity will draw the bl00d away from the erection
3. Holding your breath for a few moments ( the more and deeper we breathe - the more we build sexual energy so anytime we are wanting to elongate - invite a few shorter and more shallow breaths to move away from ejaculation
4. Holding your cock in one hand and pressing down on the tip with your thumb
5. Fully stop stroking or thrusting your penis. Bring focus of your mind onto other areas of your body as you breathe
Did you know you can tell where sexual energy is being held or where an orgasm is in our own body or a partner’s body based on the PITCH and SOUND that is being made?
How to locate and move sexual energy in the body
✨ Have you ever been with a partner and they had a higher pitched moan? This shows their pleasure was being held or experienced from more of their head vs lower in their body.
✨The lower the tone, the lower in the body
✨ If we are wanting to BUILD sexual energy, using all of the sounds and starting with the lowest tone to ground it and build it up ( LOW TONE OOO ( GOOSE)
✨If we are wanting to delay ejaculation or orgasm with ourselves or for our partner we can combine touch and sound to work the energy up further than just in the genitals.
✨The more focus and build of sexual energy just in the genitals - the faster you will ejaculate
✨Extending pleasure means moving the energy around
✨If you are wanting to guide the orgasm to build and be experienced - working with lower tone and pitch and focusing more of our touch and mind on our ROOT ( feet, legs, hips, pelvis, lower areas )
What are the sounds? || How to use the sounds?
✨ROOT SOUND ( at our base of our body)
Low tone / pitch sounds extending OOO ( GOOSE)
✨SACRAL (hips, pelvis, lower abdomen)
Low tone like O ( OPEN ) Extending O
✨HEART - AHH - a bit higher pitch
✨THROAT - AYY - higher pitch
✨HEAD - EEE - highest pitch
Have you ever played with different sounds and how they feel in your body?
