Many ask if yoga improves sex. Yoga may create for some wild..

Many ask if yoga improves sex. Yoga may create for some wild positions and great imagination poses. However sex is made better through understanding yourself and what turns you on. ‍Erotic self-care begins with diminishing our inner-critic and giving ourselves simply the permission to feel beautiful, to enjoy our own company, to be more compassionate and realistic with ourselves without vacillating between excess and repression. When I ask people to complete the sentence, “I turn myself on when….” the answers usually have to do with taking time for self-care: going into nature; dancing; pampering; connecting to body and sensuality, nurturing. We turn ourselves on when we energize ourselves, when we are embodied and focused—not on any particular goal, such as having an orgasm, but on the present moment. Maybe it’s the sensation of a small square of dark chocolate melting on our tongue. Self-care isn’t just about facemasks and mindfulness, though those are great, too. It’s about tuning into our bodies and letting them teach us what we like, what we don’t like, and what we don’t know about ourselves yet. Sex has never been about what another looks like or can do. It's about who we are and our self care. The most powerful thing about sex is it comes from within to turn ourselves on, we are the drivers. Have you ever been so stressed you do not feel like sex? Here is an example how we feel challenges it. The reason so many people have trouble having good sex is they are not present within themselves and have too many worries or thoughts and do not know themselves. The best way you can improve your sexuality is to get to know yourself. What makes you feel good, what calms your thoughts, what you like and do not like. What connects you to the moment and another etc. Sensuality is a great way in every day life to calm the nerves and create self care. When we widen the realm of the senses, we invite the world in. I love to ask people the following questions. Answer them for yourself: What's your favorite temperature of water? What's your favorite temperature generally outside? How do you respond to sun, wind, air? Are you aware of what touches your skin, of what hovers around you? When you wash yourself, what’s your relationship to the body that you’re washing? Do you enjoy touching yourself? And I’m not talking about genitals only, but pleasing and soothing yourself. When you drink coffee or tea are you just gobbling or savoring? Are you aware of your experiences in sensory, sensual, and physical ways? Which is the sense with which you make love the most? Which sense do you barely notice or use? Befriending our bodies and making peace with them is the beginning of one of the best relationships we can ever have: the relationship with ourselves and in turn that brings the best relationships to everything we do including sex. If yoga and good looks was what made good sex, every yogi would be having it and no relationship problems. Brad and Angelina Jolie would still be together too beautiful people but they aren't. It's a pleasurable, sensual connection that reminds us that life is worth living even when we are in pain or struggling. If we want to be able to connect better with our bodies, we must invite ourselves to explore different experiences around our senses, and around our sensuality first without sexuality and in turn build to our sexuality and experiences we enjoy sexually. Esther Perel.