So this morning I’m feeling a little heart broken. I really..
Added 2020-10-27 17:19:38 +0000 UTCSo this morning I’m feeling a little heart broken. I really like this girl and I want to continue our relationship so I asked her to spend the night with me this morning She replied that she isn’t sure we are looking for the same things. I can see what she sees so I understand. I was first a swinger and now trying to be poly or being poly some girls can’t get over the fact I am/was a swinger. There is this negative stigma associated with swingers that tells people they only do it for sex. That they are the scum of the non-monogamous lifestyles. Why can’t people see that swingers are people too and they have a range of feelings. Not all swingers are in it for just sex. I know I’m not. If I was, I wouldn’t have taken her on three dates. I would have tried to make moves on the first date. I would have talked to her about sex right away of that was my motivation. I connected well with her. She is very sexy and beautiful and I was sure that this was my next poky relationship which I have been longing for for so long. I wrote out what I want in our relationship or my next poly relationship and now waiting for her reply but I’m not thinking it’s going anywhere now. It’s so hard to overcome generations of stigma. This is why I’m so open with my lifestyle. I’m tired of the stigma. Tire of people judging me based on one word. Especially people that aren’t swingers. Judging me with the rest of society. Then other non-monogamous lifestyles judge swingers too. Why can’t we all just be non-monogamous. Why do we have to have titles and labels. Even all of poly isn’t the same as each other. Swingers practice it differently from one person the next. Open relationships as well. I’ll update this story as it unfolds. Wish me luck. One day I’ll find my second other half.
